OH I FORGOT. I SAW THE GREATEST CAR IN THE WORLD WHEN I WAS COMING BACK FROM THE JOB INTERVIEW I DID TODAY
I got the job I had interviewed for in this post and they started me at $13/hr and a guaranteed 20 hours a week thanks everyone for their support in the notes abt the job interview itself and no thanks to the people who said it was cursed
Reblog the X3 HEWWO car of career success. Reblog for a decent job
too bad I’m saying it anyway– shipping an adult with a minor means you headcanon that adult character as a pedophile and you should just say that instead of jumping around with your weird discourse language to try and make it sound like it’s okay.
Can’t you guys just ship them in an au where the minor is of age?
or you could just not ship a minor with an adult?
People ship fictional characters, not real people, if you don’t ship them in canon, what’s really the issue?
do you not find it weird for someone to see ‘romantic/sexual chemistry’ in the relationship between an adult and child? in any given context, endorsing pedophilia is still endorsing pedophilia. even if it’s a fictional ship. ageing up characters does nothing because they’re still a child in a canon. why view a child/adult relationship as anything other than platonic in the first place? like op said, you either headcanon a character as a pedo or you’re just jumping through as many hoops as you can find in order to continue shipping nasty shit.
“Fun” fact that not everyone might know when it comes to “they can get together later when they’re both adults” shipping – the dynamic imbalance that comes from a close relationship between a minor and an adult? Yeah, it doesn’t go away. At 17, I had a very close relationship with a 24 year old that other people my age (me included) definitely naively saw potential romantic chemistry in. I used to sit there doing math, trying to figure out when I would be old enough to pursue him romantically. I decided 21 (when he would be 28) was old enough.
Well, guess what. I’m 22, and the age gap between us feels just as wide as ever. I feel younger when I talk to him. I looked up to him and was so attached to him as a mentor for so long that the instant I talk to him, I regress to feeling like a teenager again, with all the insecurities and desperation for approval that implies,through no intentional action of his.
22 year olds have dated 29 year olds before. It’s a little old for my tastes, but it’s not the most problematic thing in the world. But I could never have an equal relationship with this particular guy. The power imbalance my own brain imposes on me is too great. That’s why I include relationships where both are adults now, but they knew each other closely when one was an adult and the other was a child on my “Don’t” list, and it’s why “they get into a relationship later when the kid is an adult” AUs are deeply problematic as well. It’s not a shortcut to making it suddenly healthy.
Yes yes YES. I was going to make a post like this but everything is so well said in this I don’t need to. But I’ll give another example: I used to be in this theather group where I was the oldest and I had to play this character who had a HUGE chrush on another character who was played by this 16 yrs old guy. I was 18 at the time. Now I didn’t have to kiss him or anything and yeah it was just theather blaah blaah blaah but still I thought “man, I could NEVER have a crush on him for real. He’s so young” I am 21 now and he’s 18/19. And guess what I still see him as Younger Guy. Just like I see everyone else I knew when they were kids.
So yes, 18 yrs old and 28 yrs old can date, but WHO in their right minds could ever be romanticaly interested in someone they watched to grow up? Someone they knew when they were a kid and they themselves were not?
I can’t believe this is even a discussion but pleace don’t ship pedofilia
Yeah even those AU’s, though not technically pedophilia, are sketchy as hell.
Sometimes I’ll run into 17/18/19 year olds that I mentored when they were middle schoolers. Even though some of them are now adults, they still seem like kids to me! That must be how parents feel… these people can drive and vote, but in my eyes they’re still the awkward kids who wanted to impress me so bad. I’ve had times where I had to remind myself they weren’t kids anymore because I caught myself talking to them like they were, well, kids.
I’m sure not everyone feels that way about young adults they knew as kids, but it’s definitely questionable.
